Moving in together can be a big deal. As women we have God-given talents to nurture and turn a house into a home. We can also have a tendency to go overboard with our feminine touch. When my husband and I moved in together it was important to me to not only create a peaceful and beautiful home, but to also create a space that reflected both of us, not just me. In this blog post I’ll share how you can approach cohabitation with creativity and consideration, building a home that is a reflection of you, your man, and future family.
Color palette
Before my husband and I moved in together my home decor was completely pink, absolutely sparkly, with neutral pastels accenting the atmosphere. It was a beautiful representation of singleness, softness, and femininity. But once my husband and I moved in together my home decor could not just reflect me, but both of us. Now as a wife and mother, neutrals are the center of my home decor. Grays, camels, and pastel earth tones are foundational colors for larger things like the wall color and sofa color. I use pops of color or more feminine colors as an accent for things like lamps, dishes, throws, and armchairs.
Kid friendly furniture
There are two sides to this coin. It can be argued that one should have furniture pieces that have longevity, that can still be used after singleness into life as a family woman, like neutral solid wood versus mirrored nightstands. It can also be said that one should live like a single person when they are single and invest in the things that make them happy before starting a family so that they truly feel whole and will harbor no resentment. Before becoming a wife and mother none of my furniture was kid friendly, it was all mirrored and sparkly and I loved having delicate trinkets on display. Once my husband and I moved in together, I did sell all of my super fancy delicate furniture because I knew that we would eventually have to with wanting to be parents. It was easy for me to sell my things because I had already made memories with it and I was happy about entering a new season of life and creating a home with the love of my life. Now that I’m able to reflect on it, I would offer the advice of compromise. Maybe you saved the super delicate furniture for your bedroom and make sure that the rest of the house has kid friendly furniture that is not easily damaged or dangerous. Maybe you keep your fond trinkets out on display, but out of reach or in a special display curio cabinet. Part of creating a home as a family woman is considering your future children as you decorate and curate.
Inclusive decor and organization
As a wife you can foster inclusivity into your home with your husband by blending both styles into the decor and choosing pieces that reflect cultural backgrounds, family traditions, and values. Thoughtful organization like his and her vanities, shoe organization in the mud room, and designated areas for your crafting and his gaming establish systems that respect both routines and belongings. This helps a home feel comfortable and equitable. As wives it is up to us to prioritize design choices and storage solutions.Â
Creating a neutral home for everyone is not about removing identity or taste, but about elevating it. It is about creating a home where everyone feels seen, supported and at peace in a practical and beautiful way. You want the atmosphere of your home to always reflect the heart of your family, and I hope these tips have given you a good start. If you would like to watch the corresponding YouTube video to this blog post click the link below!
